Technology and Potty Training.

Well with potty training boot camp on this weekend we have been looking at different ways to entertain this child whilst mostly indoors (the weather has been on the ordinary at best side.) So technology has come into play, especially seeing Saturday morning the wooden train set went on holidays after they were watered with Pear juice....

So out comes the Wii. Thomas got to create his own character, he also likes to change it's clothes daily too it seems. We have worked out games like baseball are best and he is an awesome pitcher, if we can keep him on task. In the end it becomes an amusing adventure of daddy batting and Thomas pitching as a team. Funny. competitive and not mummies domain.Oh and lots of, You can pitch the ball now Thomas. Any time Thomas. I think he is slowly getting it. But gets so easily off track.

But the Monday night funny comes as I was cooking dinner and Thomas found the iPad charging by my chair.
Next he come running up the hall way. Shouting need potty, good program on. hearing bob the builder on TV I thought. Ok. Bob phase again. Nope he was watching Thomas the Tank Engine clips on You Tube. So he grabs his potty to take back so he could watch the You Tube clip. I think I need to tell him about Pause and replay.

Proud moment. He recognised he needed to go. And whilst typing the last paragraph he did it again!

Two steps forward...

Many steps back.  We seem to be having a lot of these moments lately where we seem to be making awesome progress, then suddenly regress right back. This is in both areas of behaviour, toilet training and communications. All of which is probably related to each other.

We will have a couple of days where you think what ASD? Then a night mare run. Sleep is also on the decline again for every body. It just does not seem fair.

This week we are learning that appalling behaviour is not going to be accepted. Deliberately destroying items is not going to go down well, and toys will be taken away. Tough love is happening. Explanations are  in place and so are the expectations. Poster making here I come!!

Potty training is also still the bug bear and getting tough here. Deliberate defiance at home is happening and mummy is not happy as he is a perfect angel at kindy and school. (He can do this, but for what ever reason won't self initiate at home and gets aggressive if we do toilet timing with him.)

This last month or so we have also been dealing with a couple of virus's here which does play a part in the down slide. But it will not get the better of us. It can't!

We have been making progress with food though. Eating things that are not normally eaten like savoury mince. Turned out even though it was slimy (his words) it was very nice. So it seems in the words of Dr Seuss "Try it, Try it, you may see, Try it try it, you may like it".

The safari breakfast.

May madness

May has been an incredible month for Thomas. We have been on a short break, started a new diet, endured a super moon, (yep so far this was just in one weekend), started using weighted products and started to read sight words and letters.

It has also been a month to reflect on how far we have come since his diagnosis 12 months ago.

* Meltdowns have lessened to a degree
* Public meltdowns have at least halved.
* Toilet training has finally started. - we are not even close to saying he is perfect at it. But we are consistently working through this.
* We can now do a quick shop (or even a quick full shop) with out too much of an issue.
* Thomas can now verbalise occasionally what is bugging him, ie the fluro lights was a big one. Yes he can hear them and knowing this makes a huge difference.
* Early intevention is well established now.
* Reports are now starting to come in and the advancements and delays in various areas are now being spoken about.
* He has eaten mashed vegetables (not just steamed or pureed).

Sleep has only slightly improved. We can now get him to sleep, but still dealing with middle of the night/Early hours of the morning wakings. One day this may start to improve, but simply this maybe as good as it gets for a little while longer, only time and lots of patience will tell.

But the one thing that every one agrees on, he is a happy and very active little boy, with good manners - even when at his most defiant moments.

Some snaps from our short break!

Autism awerness month. APRIL

There was lots of going blue, coloured hair and even blue lights this month. I was even in a newspaper or two... LOL

 Our first blue morning Tea at the support group. posing with two of the young men of the group for the news papers.

 Blue haired mummy with her little man.

 Cup cakes and chocolate.... Great mix.

 The Go Blue Launch in the Queen street Mall Brisbane.

 Daddy even came down during his lunch break.

 Tender moment - maybe - but more like removing Vegemite's from a face and Thomas playing with the blue hair.

 Great mates, wanting to join in, but not sure how.

 Our frount door. Thomas rubbed the liquid chalk before it dried.

 He found my wig in the car.

In blue for School. The red thing on his chest is a chewy necklace. Great for stimming and perfect solution to needing a dummy still.

Spinning and stimming

Stimming and spinning are very much traits of Aspergers. People with Autism and Aspergers use these ticks and quirks to self center and concentrate. After a fairly stressful March we have noticed Thomas picking up the notch of stimming and spinning.

Thomas has taken to walking around the edges of room or around one item of furniture. This would be dizzying for some people but for other it helps them focus and make sense of their worlds. He has also been making annoying sounds (very loudly as nothing with Thomas is quiet!) repetitively. Lining toys up and having them in just the right order is not uncommon.

Today was the arm flapping and airplane motions complete with sound effects naturally, whilst we shopped. Today there was not hiding the fact he was just no ordinary boy in a pram. Which is always fun when you have shopping to do.

How we lessen his anxiety when out and about - iPad for distraction, head phones for positive noise input. Sun shade and covering blanket for light reduction. This sometimes works, other times he simply can't focus enough for it to work.

Other activities to lesson his stimming or creating a positive stimming activity is the Trampoline. This also has the added advantage of  using up excess energy.

March Maddness

It has been a crazy month here and not all for the right reasons. The last blog post was written when we were given some much needed respite from Thomas's Grandparents. We really enjoyed this time until suddenly this mummy fell ill. It was the start of hospital visits for the parents.

During this time saw a major regression in toilet training and some great frustration for all the hard work we tried to achieve. But understandably the anxiety took over in this little man. But we are working our way back to where we were slowly.

Stimming has also been pretty high up there. Showing signs to us that his world is not doing so well right now. But in the coming weeks it is all going to be about routine, routine and more routine. Even if the school holidays about to decend upon us.

Back to making more and more pecs cards as well to help with the routine and changes as there are going to be a few with school holidays coming.

We have also noted at lot more lining up of his toys. Whilst this is a classic asd trait it was one that was not really common for Thomas to do this with every toy until the last few weeks. I have tried taking photos but as soon as the camera comes out he deliberately messes them up if I get caught.

We have also noted whilst he knows how to say his alphabet and count out loud to 13 perfectly well he has no ability to recognise the written letters that well. so we have started the letter of the day. Using flash cards, and colouring sheets creating activities that hold his attention and give him the chance to know his letters. Then be able to work on his name.

Autism has also featured very heavily in the media this last few weeks, with parents speaking out about how it really is. One mum even allowed them to film her taking her son for a hair cut. Yes life is that hard. Whilst the interviews were cut short the snap shot they did show was very real.

Services are hard to come by in some areas of Australia, Funding is not always reaching everyone. And when you don't have this funding Raising these children is incredibly expensive. With the world standard being that these children need 20+ hours minimum of therapy a week. And simply many families can not afford to do all of this professional therapists.

So many try and make do with 1-2 hours of outside therapy and do the rest at home.
We worked out that Thomas gets 5 hours EI at ECDP a week, 2 days of kindy - not essentially therapy but is social interaction, then he does 1 hour a fortnight with the OT or speech therapist. The rest we do at home.

Next month is Autism awareness month. It should be a great month. I will be hopefully attempting to blog a lot more through out this month.

The school boy

Well this year has been a huge change in day care and education. We changed to main stream day care and started a state education based pre prep program. It has a been an amazing change so far and he seems to be growing up more and more every day.
It also means he is playing with children of a variety of abilities within his own age grouping. He seems to be enjoying being around other children of his own age bracket again and has bonded to yet another little girl. I wonder if she knows he is bonded to her yet?

In fact it took a good month to work out who his "friend" was. He spent the first month mispronouncing her name. Even the day care staff could not work out who he was talking non stop about. It was not until she arrived the same time as Thomas one morning that I clued on to who it was.

The mainstream day care are more flexible too. It does not matter too much if I am running late or a touch early. I am not growled at as his parent needing that extra time occasionally or in an emergency.

The pre prep program at "little people" school has also been great. It is a small group of 4 students with an aide and teacher in the room. They give chill out time and work great on the sensory play. He is getting that intense therapy time so close to home. The other thing is the group is 4 little boys. All different yet all brought together for an intense learning program.

He also seems to really like all of his teachers and aides this year with no real detest for anyone. Touch wood that is amazing and has made for very little separation anxiety and home time meltdowns.

Therapy with his speech therapist and Occupational Therapist have been going well too with the recommended Trampoline being delivered and well used all ready with positive results especially if I can get him on the tramp before any appointments or days at school where he needs to have a little bit of stillness to him. I not sure how long the effect is lasting but I am really trying to get him to bounce for 20-40minuets. And witht he tramp we choose he can do "activities" on the mat that give him focus and movement all at the same time.